I have had an epiphany. The “double bind” is perfectly understandable. Unacceptable today – but understandable! Until recent history, leaders were men – so, of course, leadership has been defined in masculine terms. It is understandable that we are confused about what we expect of women, especially women in leadership. I don’t like it that women are “damned or doomed” depending on whether they choose a feminine or masculine style of achieving results. But my epiphany gives me greater understanding.