It is natural for newcomers to observe a group’s norms and conform their behavior. Adapting can be exhausting, especially if done unconsciously or for too long. But adapting our behavior is sometimes important for our effectiveness. If I “flex” to be more effective, I am not being inauthentic — any more than I am inauthentic if I try to speak French in a meeting in France!
Heterogeneous teams, including those that reflect both masculine and feminine ways of thinking, make the best decisions. The masculine approach is prevalent in most workplaces. Women learn to model their behavior after those who succeed in the organization; they hone their masculine ways of working. Women and men need to understand and value the feminine approach to work.